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MANDAY: Make Time for Yourself

With more success comes more leisure right? WRONG! More success brings more work. People hear about your success through referrals, and you actually find yourself with less time. Here are three things I do to treat myself without cutting into my day.

1. Proper Sleep. I’ve had poor sleep my whole life. I found out it’s not that uncommon. I’ve gone to a doctor. I suggest that you do as well.  But in lieu of that try Melatonin. It’s over the counter. I believe it comes in 2mg, 3mg and 5mg. I take 3mg. That coupled with a religious sleep schedule will change your life. In THE weight gain month of the year, December, I lost 12 pounds. I owe it to consistent sleep regimen. In bed by 11, up by 6:30.
2. A Proper Shave. All you need is a mirror for the shower, shaving soap / cream ( I suggest eshave.com), a badger hair brush to lather it on (DO NOT skip this step. Take the time to do it right. Eshave and Jack Black make great brushes as well as The Art of Shaving), and a razor. 1. Take the first part of your shower fast. i.e. shampoo & soap. 2. crank the heat and soak your face to open up your pores 3. bust out your badger hair brush and shaving soap and brush a thick creamy lather on your face 4. use your mirror and razor and shave – this is luxury. Soak it up.
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3. Have A Proper Cigar.  While I love a whisky or scotch just as much as the next guy, it’s impossible to have one and keep on working. You also can’t have one after work and then go back to work. Cigars are amazing for the opposite reason. They take 30 – 40 minutes to smoke. And when you’re done, you can continue your day or night with all your wits. Here’s the startup I suggest. 1. Buy a humidor at a cigar shop. It needs to have hygrometer in it to measure the moisture. 2. By a Xikar lighter. Matter of fact, buy Xikar everything. They have lifetime warranty on all their products. For their lighters I recommend the Element. I have the chrome one. It has a dual butane torch and a cigar punch at the bottom.
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In addition you’ll need some fuel for your lighter. Xikar makes a 100ml butane bottle that sells for about $5. Lastly you need a cigar. Any cigar shop worth a damn will have Drew Estate’s Undercrown. The real jewel is the Drew Estate’s Liga Privada No.9. It’s only carried in Tulsa at Fogue & Bates out south. They only let you buy two at a time. But everyone has Undercrowns and they’re great.
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I suggest buying a box and dropping them in your humidor. Surprise yourself and break for a smoke at the back of your parking lot at 10:30am. It’s wonderful. Go back to work feeling like a million bucks. Or, use a cigar as your reward for the end of the day.
Regardless, these three things will not shorten your day. A proper sleep regimen will help you lose weight and heighten your senses. A proper shave is luxurious and will leave you feeling and looking good. A proper smoke is a vice you can look forward to that won’t unnecessarily cut into your day and won’t rob you of your wits. You deserve to be treated well. But let’s face it, with success comes more work. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still have time for yourself.

MANDAY: Game Changer

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Flower arrangements are easy to make, and they can be done anywhere. I’ve made them in my car, at the office, my house, her house, etc… With flowers, there are two ways to go. Basically, if you want to spend over $50, you might as well let a pro do it. I use The French Bouquet exclusively. I call and tell them my budget and as many details as possible, i.e. cool colors, orchids if possible, birthday gift for a girl, modern looking if possible. Her arrangements speak for themselves. But do your best not to wait til the last minute. This company is in demand!!

I’ve found that sometimes time spent is equal or greater to money spent. I also know everyone loves flowers. They like to get them at their office, early in the day so they can sport them to their associates. Not just for the rest of that day, but until the flowers desperately need to be thrown out. Learn how to make a few arrangements and watch doors open. You can use them for ANYTHING. The major contenders are Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, birthdays and getting out of the dog house. But watch what happens when you make and give them for no reason at all. Read below and see how easy it is. You won’t believe it.

Here’s what you need.

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1. Water. It doesn’t have to be in a pitcher. You don’t even need a faucet. Feel free to put some in a water bottle and take it to wherever your “work station” will be. Filtered water supposedly will make your flowers last longer, but it’s not that big of a deal.

2. Scissors. Sharper the better. You’ll find out the hard way- not all scissors are equal. Not all stems are soft. But if you’re in the dog house, you’ll find a way to tear stems with your teeth. So again, it doesn’t really matter.

3. Vase. Square and rectangle vases ones are the easiest if you’re a beginner. They’re also uber inexpensive. In a hurry? Look in your girlfriend’s, mom’s or sister’s cabinet. I promise there’s one in there.

4. $25 – $40.

5. A flat surface for your work station.

Next , head to a grocery store. If in Tulsa, make a beeline for Whole Foods. All you really need is three kinds of flowers. Choose colors they like. If you don’t know, then just pick colors you think go together. Trust your gut.

You’re going to need a main flower like a rose or tulip, a full flower like a hydrangea that takes up space, and a third flower to give some added texture.

One thing to keep in mind- you want to choose flowers that are closed. After you buy and cut them, they will open up. If they’re already open, they’re not going to last as long. With roses you need to gently squeeze them at the base. If they’re soft don’t buy them. You want them to feel firm in the center.

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Here are the three I chose. Obviously you can choose more than three. But having a plan before you go in is a good idea. Flowers are like anything. It’s easy to get carried away and sometimes simple is better. This is one of those times.

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yellow orange roses ($12.99 dozen) x 1

hydrangea (mini green. $1.99 per stem) x 2

leucadendron / safari sunset ($8.99 per bunch) x 1

Go to your flat surface (dash of your car, office desk, counter by the sink). Take the water and fill your vase 3/4 of the way full. Start putting flowers in the vase. You’ll have to cut them immediately because they’re going to be way too long. When you cut the stems, try to cut them at a 45 degree angle. This helps them absorb water. Also, you’ll want to strip the stems of their foliage. Foliage left in the water will rot and make flowers go bad quick.

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I chose a mini hydrangea because it’s great for taking up space. It will help balance the other flowers so they don’t just fall over.

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Next, I cut and measured five roses to a height where their tops would just be sticking out above the rim when standing vertically without leaning. (I decided to use five because that’s all that would fit side by side.) I eyeballed the first one and then went back and forth ’til I got it right. Once I did, I measured four more against it so all five would be the same. Lastly, I eyeballed, and stripped six or seven safari sunset stems. Then I fanned them out behind the roses. It took a couple tries to keep everything even.

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Sometimes symmetry matters. Sometimes it doesn’t. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. Remember, this is your arrangement. If you get frustrated, pull them all out and start over. I had to do that on this one, but it didn’t slow me down. It won’t take you long to figure it out either. Just be sure the card says that you made it. Trust me, it’s a game changer.

Money spent before tax – $28

Time spent – 35 minutes

MANDAY – Color Me Bad

Navy blue, light grey, oxford grey, dark grey, khaki, British tan, dark taupe, light brown, dark brown, chestnut brown, olive, charcoal, black, etc, etc… The spectrum of colors we as men have been wearing all our lives are drab at best. It’s like we’re going to a funeral every day. Where are the colors?!! Seriously! I crossed a tipping point the day I knew I could never wear another variation of Cambridge grey wool gabardine pants for the umpteenth consecutive day. Otherwise, I’d shoot myself in the face. This has nothing to do with being on the pulse of fashion. It’s about injecting life and personality into the business day. If we wear color does that mean we aren’t serious about getting down to business? I think not. In fact, my clients love it. I now own a pair pants in spruce green, mustard yellow, light blue, and red. I wear them to work, dinners, and weddings, church, you name it. Nothing’s sacred.

 

 

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The fashion industry has been saying yes to color too. It’s been all over the runway for several seasons. But trends work in a different way. Mainstream fashion markets know that you have to ease men into big palette changes. That’s why you can walk into any storefront in our market and see awesome color options for women, but none for men. When these changes become common place on women, men will adapt and then begin to adopt the changes themselves.

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 Gap pants, “Spruce Needle” priced $44.99.

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Gap pants, “Novel Burgundy” priced $44.99

 

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Bonobos pants, “Brick Red” priced $88.00

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Bonobos pants, “Old Money” priced $88.00

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Unis pants, “Emerald”  - sold through Union Made Goods, priced $198.00.

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I wear what I want when I want. However it’s going to be a while before non-traditional colors are storefront accessible for men in general. But rest assured they are “en vogue”. What’s more, I’ve found that clients respond positively to progressive fashion if worn with confidence. Here are three websites that increase in price. The second two have significant more offerings in variety. In my mind you should always be able to wear the colors you like (I love navy and grey too.). That’s why I’m stocking up while I can. I suggest you do the same.

 

Cheers,

Dustin Thames

 

 

MANDAY – Hats!

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I always wear them. But they don’t only look good on me. There was a time in America when literally every single man wore a hat.

If they could all wear them then, then so can you. And now is the season! But it’s not the time just because they’re en vogue. It’s literally the right time because of how warm they can keep you. A significant amount of heat is lost when your head is uncovered. Enter the hat. Hats keep you warm. And unlike the etiquette of old, it’s no longer impolite to keep them on indoors or at the table. Granted, this rule is circumstantial. But for the most part, bedhead is kept at bay with hats. Moreover, you may even get increased points for style.

Where to buy and how much? Like anything else, hats can cost an arm and a leg. Expect to pay $200 – 400 for top of the line. But for $25 – 40, you can pick one up no problem at department stores, Banana Republic, Gap, vintage shops, estate sales and online. One of my favorite spots online is Brixton.

What to buy? Will it fit? Used to be you had to measure your head to the nearest 1/8” to know what fits. Well, unless you’re breaking the bank to buy, hats now come in standard sizes. Standard like small, medium, large and extra large. Literally all you have to do is try on hats one time and you’ll know what you wear. It’s pretty universal. Easy peezy. Beyond that, if it’s under $50 and you like it, buy it. Don’t worry whether or not you have something for it. If it’s black or brown it will go with nearly anything you own.  As far as style goes, driving caps (flattens as it approaches the bill) are great for more casual events. Fedoras are will dress anything up…both look great with business attire.  The fedora has become interchangeable with anything with a brim, but there are many styles besides the Fedora. Derby, Trilby, Bowler, Pork Pie, etc…

Here are a few of my personal favorites:

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Bailey English Derby Hat

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Brixton Gain Fedora

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Bailey Tino Fedora, Nordstrom

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Cotton Navy Driving Cap, Banana Republic

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